Think of reasons why you love your spouse. Think of why you married them in the first place. Think of the good they bring to the marriage. Remember these words: “I, ____, take you, ____, for my lawful (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
What happen? We begin to move more toward our feelings, which come and go from day to day, instead of remembering the covenant. It’s important to remember our promise to God and our spouse in those tough times; it will keep us grounded. Imagine if we would think things through before re-acting, the divorce rate would be much lower. Marriage is not a regular boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, where you can pack up and leave every time the wind blows.
We have to criticize our spouse LESS and praise them MORE, especially our husbands. They get beat up in the world by other people negative thoughts and comments. And then come home to get beat on more by his wife's negative words. We have to be more kind and gentle with one another.
Husbands: do you see your wife as: Your Strong & Precious Helper
A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones. Proverbs 12:4
The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22
When you think of a crown, you think of royalty. You would wear that crown with such pride and joy. You would be honored to wear an expensive head piece. You would treasure and care for it. You would keep that crown in a secured place and keep it from being damaged or destroyed. According to Clark’s commentary, the wearing of a crown shows courage, strength and power.
Treasure means to regard or treat as precious; cherish; greatly valued.
Wives: do you see your husband as: “A Respectful Leader, Head of your Household”
Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord.For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ. Ephesians 5:21-24
God charges us to submit to our husbands. I hear you ladies, but my husband won’t even submit to Christ so why should I submit to him? The Bible did not say if your husband do this then you do that. No, it simply says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord.” Whether we want to or not, feel like it or not, we submit. Submit, respect, cook, clean, encourage him, love on him, care for the children, all because of your love and obedience toward the Lord.
We won't just "ease on down the road" during this marriage journey. But the word of God says "Finishing is better than starting. Patience is better than pride." Ecclesiastes 7:8. Finish The Promise!