Have you prayed and asked God to change your husband? Has this always been your prayer? Every time you go before God, is it about changing your husband? Are most of your arguments with your husband about him changing in some form or another? Have you ever said, "if you don't change, I'm leaving?"
Well from my experience, I understand exactly where you are. But the funny thing about God is that you are trying to force your spouse to change and God is asking that you change. One thing I've learned so far is that I can not change my husband. No matter how much I scream or nag about it, it's not my assignment to change him but to help him. The more I forced change, the more he resisted it. Why? Men don't like to be told what to do. That's just how they are made up. As his wife, we have to change our approach. What helped me to see the light is one day he told me, I act like I'm his mother. Or if I told him to do something instead of asking him, he would say, "yes mommy." That didn't sit well with me at all. I want to be his wife, his helper, not his mother and I don't ever want him to see me as such again.
Your husband may wonder, "she married me this way, why do I now have to change?" And as a wife you are thinking, "if we get married, he will change." If you notice, the things you're doing to try to make him change are not working. You are living a frustrated life trying to do God's job. You are in a battle that you will not win. What I learned is that I had to back off, chill out and just love him regardless. Now, I'm not saying that there wasn't a need for change but the way I was going about it had me stressed out, him being away from home and a home with no peace. Just chaos!
What God requires from us is to simply submit to our husbands. Webster defines submission as one yielding or surrendering to the will or authority of another. God requires us to continue to pray for, love on, cherish, respect and to be good to our husbands, even if they are not doing what we like or desire.
Marriage is about helping each other fulfill a God-given purpose in the earth. My desire is that my husband and I will worship and serve God together. Day by day, step by step, little by little, I see God working. Sometimes we get impatient with God because He's not moving fast enough for us. But know that God's timing is always the right time. Be patient and be the change you want to see in your husband and your marriage.
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.
1 Peter 3:1-2 NLT