It was once said that “time will heal all wounds.” I like this statement but I believe that it is God who does the healing in time. Everything takes time. It took time to fall in love and it will take time to heal after a failed relationship. If you have ever experience divorce, you know it was God but it also took time to get through your healing process. I believe we all have had our hearts broken at some point in our life. Jesus can identify with us. He also knows what it’s like to be betrayed, lied on, mistreated and taken for granted. But God is a God who can heal, fix and patch up what was once broken into pieces.
He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. Psalm 147:3
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Proverbs 34:18
Part of our healing process is to first forgive the person who offended us and then forgive ourselves. To forgive is to fully give up, pardon, stop and let go of the hurt, anger and animosity you may have with the other person. Being married, your spouse will offend you. But what you do with that offense will determine the duration of your relationship with each other. As much as you want to stay angry, you have to be quick to forgive. Whatever you are expecting from God, be willing to also give to your spouse. Is it easy? Absolutely not! But if God can forgive us, who are we not to extend that same forgiveness to someone else. It’s usually those who are close to us, those we love dearly, that somehow hurt us the most. But for every hurt, there is healing. We have to receive it.
Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. Proverbs 19:11
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13
The more you hold onto the hurt, the harder it will be to move on. Choose to forgive and trust your spouse again. If you keep replaying the same incident of hurt in your head over and over again, how can you heal from it? Being stuck in that place of repeat, is a trap from the enemy, to keep you from moving forward and prospering in your marriage. You may think you don’t have the strength to get over it, but you do. God has given you power over the enemy.
It takes three to make a marriage work: God, Husband and Wife. The direction in which your marriage travels is really up to you and your spouse. Put your heads together, work as a team and be determined to overcome every offense. God wants your marriage to prosper. Choose to agree with God!!!