If you didn't grow up in a two parent home and even if you did, chances are you didn't get a very example of what true love is supposed to look like, how do I know? Because sometimes we take the fantasy into our marriages. When we were growing up, if we didn't have a good true example of what love was, we took it from the images, thoughts and examples of others around us. We learned from TV ...(not a realistic or Godly example of true love) and movies (also twisted because most times it was either fantasy or lust not love), from our friends, and from what we read or saw in others. God is the ONLY example of true love. Okay, hold on because THIS is love...
1. Love holds on.
Even in the face of opposition. Love isn't blind but it isn't weak either.
2. Love BELIEVES the best.
This one is WORK, because most of the time we want things to go in OUR favor, even when we are wrong (what??? I am WRONG???? yes dear, you sometimes are wrong, the cool part is that you can ask for forgiveness on this one and keep trying - smile)
3. Love doesn't keep score.
Remember married people this is NOT a courtroom, boardroom, debate championship or competition...this is a MARRIAGE and requires teamwork, compassion, grace, and mercy (you know, the things God gives YOU when YOU fall short-don't expect from your spouse MORE than you are willing to give yourself)
4. Love means being vulnerable.
Let your spouse see into you (INTIMACY-Into Me You See) if you are having a hard time with this one then trust is your issue and this is where we need God to step in and heal and deliver us.
5. Love doesn't quit.
Marriage is not a microwave. Issues don't get fixed in a few seconds because they didn't take a few seconds to develop. Just like your spouse brought issues into the marriage, so did you. We have a tendency to blame each other and don't remember while we are pointing the finger at them we have three fingers pointing back at us! We are not just victims here, we need to be mature and admit BOTH of our faults...
Just these five steps alone will take a while to work out. You have a lifetime together. Determine to take the journey and do the work together. When we find out what TRUE love is, we will stop comparing, complaining and confusing the fantasy with reality. 1 Corinthians 13 is the love chapter. Following what love is, how it looks and what it DOES (remember that love REQUIRES ACTION) will help us TRULY show the love of God to one another. We are living and walking out a covenant with our marriage with God and with each other. Our determination is key. We have to be steadfast and stable in prayer for each other, consistent in our care of each other, and faithful in our foundation in God. Without these things we will not make it. The devil doesn't want your marriage to succeed and will do EVERYTHING to divide the two of you and destroy it. Stand up to the enemy today. Let him know that NO WEAPON formed against your marriage will prosper. We are in a war for our marriage and guess what? Greater is HE that is in us than he that is in the world. Translation...we WIN if we FAINT NOT (don't give up)
Kick the devil's butt with some sure enough LOVE for your spouse today...just a thought