Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 1 Peter 3:1-2
We first have to be honest with ourselves. You knew going in what you had on your hands and what your spouse was already like. Right? It wasn’t a surprise after you said “I Do” of who they really were. No, you knew these things when the two of you were dating. If they were drinking, clubbing, smoking, addicted to pornography, not attending church, a big flirt, not a good communicator, etc., this is the person you chose to marry. I know this may be a hard pill to swallow but we have to be real, to be free. So what changed? You now realize that this is something you no longer want to tolerate or live with. But this is the same person you were head over heels with and had butterflies in your stomach on your wedding. Remember, you could not wait to marry them. Take time to remember what attracted you to him/her. There's a good reason why you got married.
It is very important when you are dating someone that you know their beliefs among other things. Don't rush the dating process. This is time getting to know one another, likes and dislikes. Know what your expectations are of them and stand your ground. If you are a Christian and you decide to married someone of another religion, please understand there will be conflict. And what about your children? How will you raise them if you both practice something different?
Marriage is already hard work but dealing with an unequally yoked marriage is a strain. The two can not successfully fulfill purpose in marriage, which is to become one. Our common goal is to become one in Christ, be the example of a Godly marriage to others and produce Godly offspring. Husbands loving your wife as Christ love the church and wives respecting & submitting to your husbands. We can not do this if: (1) We are not saved, (2) We don’t know the Word or we know the Word and don’t apply it, (3) We don’t know our roles as a husband or wife biblically.
The bible says in Deuteronomy 22:10, “Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.” Gills Exposition gives two good reasons. (1) Because the strength of an ass is not equal to the strength of an ox and (2) because the one was a clean creature, and the other an unclean. Clark commentary states, “two beasts of a different species cannot associate comfortably together, and on this ground never pull pleasantly either in cart or plough.” The point here is: the two animals have nothing in common and can not peacefully work together. Does this sound like your marriage?
Please understand I am in no way telling anyone to leave their spouse or give up because of division in the home. We serve a God who can turn our spouse completely around and lead them down the right path. As the believing spouse, we ought to live our life in such a way that we are able to draw our unsaved or carnal spouse to Christ. Remember, real ministry starts at home first. When it’s hard to love them, love them anyway. When it’s hard to forgive, forgive anyway. When it’s hard to show mercy, show mercy anyway. You may be the only model of Christ your spouse ever witness. What do they see? Do your best to be the positive influence in your marriage.
Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
And if a household is divided against itself, that household will not stand. Mark 3:25
Scripture References: 1 Corinthians 7:12-16