As my husband and I go through a painful separation, God has been speaking to me concerning the scripture, Malachi 2:16. When we stand before God on our wedding, we make promises to God and our spouse that should last a lifetime. On that day, God no longer see us as two but one. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 (NKJV)
As we go through the painful process, I can fully understand why God hates divorce and marital separation. We become one in the sight of God and then somewhere down the road something went sour in the marriage. So, we come to a place where either one or both spouses no longer want the marriage and desire to move out and move one. You now have one flesh becoming two again.
What's so painful about this is now we see the tearing of "one flesh"; two no longer wanting to be one. The Message Version of the scripture says, “I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.” So watch yourselves. Don’t let your guard down. Don’t cheat." To dismember something means to cut, tear, pull apart or divide into pieces. Can you now see and understand why God hates such a thing?
Families are torn a part, children are misguided and confused, and life becomes stressful. Homes and furniture must be divided, financially no one is ever ready for such disappointment.
We made a promise to God that we didn't keep, couldn't keep or refuse to keep. The Bible tells us to approach God with care. Ecclesiastes 5:4-6 says, When you make a promise to God, don’t delay in following through, for God takes no pleasure in fools. Keep all the promises you make to him. It is better to say nothing than to make a promise and not keep it. Don’t let your mouth make you sin. And don’t defend yourself by telling the Temple messenger that the promise you made was a mistake. That would make God angry, and he might wipe out everything you have achieved.
As you continue to seek God about your marriage, remember to do all you can do to save your marriage. "We can not change anyone. We can encourage them. We can pray for them. But only God can truly change people." A quote by Joel Osteen. Separation does not necessarily mean the end of a thing. We just have to trust the process and trust that God knows what's best.