Most marriages today are suffering because of neglect towards the spouse and marriage. We find ourselves away from home more than we should be. Not only does our spouse starve for our attention but also our children. We sometimes wonder why our children rebel the way they do. One reason could be that we have neglected to spend time with them. We miss out on opportunities to laugh and play together as a family.
If we really look at our situation and be honest, it’s like we have become live-in roommates. We sleep in different rooms, split the bills, come and go as we please without any communication as to what our plans are for the day. And we might have sex if our schedules permit. We share the same living quarters, nothing more, nothing less. We have made other things and people more important than our spouse. When this happens, we leave the door open for Satan to come in and cause havoc in our marriage.
"Be angry, yet do not sin." Do not let the sun set while you are still angry, and do not give the devil an opportunity to work. Ephesians 4:26-27
When neglect is present, we either feel lonely and married, which means, your spouse is around but there is no companionship or acknowledgement; or we feel alone and married, which means, your spouse is never around, leaving a feeling of separation. I personally have experience both. Neglect brings about a feeling of being unloved by your spouse and unappreciated.
Remember, we must continue to pursue our spouse, go after them and show our interest. Have a desire to continue to win their hearts. I know you already have it but don’t get lazy in keeping and caring for it.
Time with your spouse and being active with each other is what keeps your marriage alive. Don’t let it die!
A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit. Proverbs 15:13