I follow many marriage pages and I can always count on one of those pages to post at least once a week, “divorce is not an option.” I’m in agreement with that declaration. But what about those couples, who divorce “has” become an option? How do we encourage them? When one has done everything humanly possible to keep their marriage together, what do we say? When one spouse is fighting for the marriage and the other is making plans to walk away, what do we say then?
Please understand I am NOT promoting or advocating for divorce. But what I do understand is we have real people, with real issues. And we can not afford to continue to dance around our problems or sugarcoat the issues. If we continue that cycle of "no where", how can we get the help we really need?
My encouragement is to seek guidance and wisdom from your pastor, prayer partner, spiritual mentor, marriage mentor and/or licensed marriage counselor, a counselor who is grounded in the Word of God. Even if you have to go alone, for your own well-being seek counsel. I know it takes two to make a marriage work but for your own sanity, get the individual help you need.
The Word proclaims that God hates divorce. I stand with God, my Father. I hate it too. It’s like tearing apart the flesh; the flesh which used to be one. #painful
I pray for everyone who has to face such a difficult decision. I pray that God will be your source and that you would allow God to order your steps. I pray for a clear mind so that you can hear clearly from God. I pray for a sound mind, that you would take control of every thought that doesn’t line up with the Word of God. I pray for stability. I pray for peace. I pray for the children, who can’t seem to understand what is taken place. I pray for those who are broken, anger, resentful, bitter, depressed, dealing with anxiety and panic attacks. God is going to see you through. Even if the outcome is not your hearts desire, please know that God has something great in store for you. Be open! In Jesus name...Amen!